Breakups - Houses - any solicitors or been here before?

Tough break mate,
My ex did me big style, but I was married, she got 75% of the house proceeds as we got 2 kids. The judge did not even take into account the fact that she lied in her papers to the Court, plus the fact that she emptied all the bank accounts, inc the Childrens money, plus was getting into my wages and did not pay the bills despite recieving the money to do so, then took her name of the bills and transferred them into my name solely. She syphoned my wages secretly, but as I could not show what she did with the money (secret bank account, as there was deffinately nothing showing in our house to justify the ?400.00 a week she was spending). The main thing is your Child. If you get Solicitors involved be expected for all sorts of nasties, allegations, counter allegations, if she gets upset, you will not see your child, As for the judicial system it wil take a Judge with real conviction to rayne her in. In reality the Family courts are overworked, not enough time slots, full of un proffessional people who only care about the money.  Remember Barriters are adverserial and that is no place for them to be with tensions allready running high. As for the judges I have not come across one yet that will imprison a reticent Mother. As they misuse the Childrens act, not in the best interests of the Children to Jail mother for breaching a Court Order.
Most cases are heard by a district judge, who will do diffrerent aspects of law, not full time Family Law. If you can get her to sign away her share of the house cheaply it's worth it. As for legal aid you WILL have to pay that back, they can put a charge over your property and charge you 8% per annum until it is discharged.

Always remember the law is an ass and there is no justice in law either.
I represented myself in Court as a Litigant In Person for 4 years (5 years in total as I ran out of money) and it got me no where. (they don't like it).

Sorry if I ranted but just expect the worse and if it all comes good then, thats a bonus. Good luck Fella. Please remember we all have different circumstances, I would say mine was at the extreme end of the spectrum.

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who in the derby crew is up for a pub lunch to take ross out for a pint bless him, let me know Lou

loubylou71 said

who in the derby crew is up for a pub lunch to take ross out for a pint bless him, let me know Lou

Count me in Lou, we can swap horror stories LOL   . What time and where and when?

I can make whenever, billy no mates me lol, see what everyone else says & we can take it from there, you lot will have to pick the pub, i dont know of any in your area

count me in!!leave your car at home ross!!

Lol cheers guys! Definately up for that, spoke to jim earlier and he is in too, name a date and time and im there! Dont know any pubs though round derby so I will leave it up to you natives!

Ross

when we out peps,my tongue is getting dry???and with all this sun coming?

tel me about it jay!! got me sen a 18 pack of stella in, been slowly sipping me way through this afternoon/evening!!

Been to see solicitor today, she reckons I have a good case for getting the house signed over free/cheap - but then she would say that wouldnt she!!  She is drafting a letter to send to the ex, so will find out in a few days where she gets to.

So what we saying then - marketon pub? what day suits best?

this weekend is good for me, i thnk it will have to be sunday, Chortle works saturdays

see you at the pub then guys and gals,any one want to pick me up on the way through???jim?????

when what day time? I hope your not leavin your missus in the car this time Jay lol.

I need a postcode or adress too dont know the pub  :wink:

rossirvine said

well the best bit I suppose is we aint married, so she has no rights over my personal savings.

Gonna have to go see solicitor about it, but surely I only have to pay her half of nothing, which is ….. NOTHING??!!

Some friendly advise, just be careful with the mortgage side of it too. I brought my ex out last year and with the pay out and taking on her half the mortgage it went over the stamp duty level and that was 1% again on a house i aleady owned and had paid stamp duty on 4 years before    seems criminal i know, there are ways to massage figures ) so keep it amicable between you and the ex you never know if you need her to say something like the mortgage split is 80:20 in your favour to get below stamp duty levels etc.Just take for instance a 300k mortgage on your house split 50;50 even giving her nothing means in effect in the eyes of the land registry you are giving your ex ?150k meaning you could end up paying ?1500 to HMRC but split 80:20 would mean in effect you are only taking on 60k and below duty levels. Believe me i know first hand.  

loubylou 71 said

when what day time? I hope your not leavin your missus in the car this time Jay lol.

I need a postcode or address too dont know the pub  :wink:

she only got left in the car coz of the dog,i am not that cruel all the time,but i bet she says different!!!she dont finish untill 2 so sometime after that,unless i can scrounge a lift???

That sounds fine to me, no one else has got back to us as yet, i dont mind picking anyone up, but your not allowed to watch me drivng you have to look out the window  8O

Sunday is good for me too,but cant make it til 3ish

so shall we say 3ish at the markeaton pub on sunday

Anyone coming or not ?